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Understanding violence is
the first step towards changing attitudes. Riccardo Cuppini |
LAST week, I observed that the insecurity situation in the country is very bad. And it will remain that way as far as we can see into the future. This is because those whose duty it is to solve the problem are hardly doing anything worth talking about, beyond meetings, photo-ops and the regular platitudes that we are fed with. I am not surprised.
This is because the architects of the problem may have no solutions to proffer. That is also why, whenever a political strategy is devised, those who formulated the strategy more often than not do not pause to ponder the variables that will spin out of control. The insecurity we are bedevilled with at present is the fallout of a political strategy with variables that have gone out of control, as they would.
These people, whose minds were forged in the Luciferous furnaces in the hottest parts of hell stayed with us, in our country, started eating our food, and drinking our God-given water. After receiving payment from those that hired them, they used the proceeds to buy assault rifles. Seeing how good our lands are, they decided the next best thing to happen is for them to kill us all off our lands and settle on them as if it is their own.
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One major factor in conflict resolution is that there are things that cannot aid resolution. That is, conflicts cannot be resolved if we engage in those things. So, in marriage, those things must be avoided if true conflict resolution is to happen. We will be considering some of the things I term abominations in conflict resolution.
However, let me state that if any meaningful resolution is to be achieved, couples must embrace the children’s presentation or posture on conflict resolution. One thing we all know is that when children quarrel, it doesn’t last for long. It happens suddenly, and disappears suddenly. Children don’t dwell on issues in their conduct. They keep issues in the head and not in the heart. One minute, they quarrel; the next minute, they are playing again. Children don’t have a heart where hurts can be kept.
So, let us have it at the back of our minds to be child-like in conflict resolution ─ we cannot help but quarrel, and once it happens, we must resolve it as soon as possible.
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